I have always found it interesting that we all lean toward having new year resolutions and then slowly lose sight of what our once thought-focused resolve was. We spend time creating lists and marking down time frames thinking that we are like computers and forgetting that road maps are much more natural to how we process and progress through our days. We get lost in the hours of our days and not the moments. We forget that with every day comes night, every gain a loss, and every inhale and exhale. We lose track of why we have goals and why we want to be better and do better. We forget that we do not need to just give up and give in because for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.
What if we create road maps in place of task sheets? We will be able to leave space for the unplanned pit stops remembering that we all need to rest, fortify, and release at some point. We tend to look at these resolutions or maps drawn in pen as black and white, and when we do not succeed, we believe we are then failures with too many marks on the page. This year let us allow our maps to be in pencil so that we can erase and revise at will with no trace of failure and only marks of progress. We can even create these maps in colored pencil when we get the hang of it, then we will see the progress from where we thought we felt more comfortable in the old black and white to when we realized we can live in color.
We will all let go of something this year, it may be a few pounds, an old way of thinking, feeling, or existing that no longer serves us, it may be health or a life, but within all of this letting go is a place that is now open to receive what can and will serve us best if we allow it to. Life is messy, and we continually attempt to tidy it up and make it look good, but unless we are willing to get dirty, the clean up is indeed only superficial. We are capable of getting dirty, and honestly, most of us are missing the art of being fully involved. In traditional Japanese culture there is a phrase, Wabi-sabi. It is a world view based on the acceptance of transience and imperfection. It is the philosophy of imperfection, incompleteness, and impermanence being beautiful. If we look to our American culture and lives, we see where we may have lost the value of imperfection and time. We have been so busy attempting to make it look good, we have forgotten that there is beauty in mess.
It is our hope for you that this is a year of loving the light and the dark, of being willing to exert effort and allowing us to see what the Universe has to offer us in return, no matter the answer, and to find the gift in that. May this be a year of us as both individuals and communities being willing to go inside ourselves to fill our wells so that we may then have space and opportunities to come together in community to support and stand with and for one another. May this be a year in which fear only guides us rather than leads us, may the fear bring awareness to boundaries and compassion and not cruelty and misdeeds. May this be a year in which we all see the light we each shine reflected in one anothers' eyes so that the darkness is never as scary as we thought it once to be. May this be a year when we hold ourselves in grace and learn from our observations and not our judgments. May this be a year of moving from pen to colored pencils, or, if you are brave enough, to finger paint.
Happy New Year, friends. May it be your best yet.